Session 1: What Are Stuck Points
A stuck point is a personal view or thought that was caused or changed due to the account. Stuck points will be used throughout each therapy session.
After this session, I went back through blog post #1-4 and made the "now-realized" stuck points red.
My stuck points are listed below:
- Is my personality, which I've grown to love, going to change?
- Am I more worried about saving myself than saving my marriage?
- My confusion on whether what he was doing was ok or wrong.
- I don't want to look attractive to men.
- It is hard for others to "get close" and get to know me.
- I refuse to hung.
- I can count people I consider real friends on one hand.
- I do not "hang out" or socialize.
- I cannot sit next to anyone except my husband or kids.
- I don't trust anyone completely.
- I would have to trust someone enough to do it right because I'm too controlling.
- My self-esteem is shitty. I don't like to make myself look or feel attractive.
- Tight clothing, blankets and especially socks around my feet make me feel like I can't breathe. I have to know I can escape.
- My wedding ring is too fancy. I switched from the $4,000 one to the $20 one I wear everyday.
- If I had my choice, I would never have sex or be touched.
- I try to plan intimate moments so I don't have that "anticipation" feeling as I get into bed.
- I constantly pick at myself until I scar. I do this to make me relax and feel unattractive.
- Drug and smoking experimentation.
- Avoidance of thoughts.
- I avoid people sitting or standing too close to me. I don't want us breathing each others smell.
- I don't ever listen to music anymore. It causes emotion.
- I avoid any place where there's people I don't know.
- My stomach hurts constantly.
